In the fifteen years that I’ve lived with my people, I still find that there are times when they just don’t understand what I’m trying to tell them.
I don’t blame anyone.
I am well aware of how difficult interspecies communication is.
As an observer of human-to-human communication, let me tell you, I’ve seen a lot of missed opportunities that just plain didn’t need to happen.
It’s rather amazing really since humans have so many ways to communicate: Cell phones, texting, writing, telephones, computers, and of course, face-to-face. Still, with all those options, effective communication doesn’t always happen.
I think humans could learn a thing or two from cats when it comes to the fine art of communication. I’ve organized my thoughts into this list of tips.
- If it’s important, say it more than once. Never assume they heard you the first time.
- There’s no need to growl. Just repeat. If that doesn’t work, you may have to increase your volume – but just a little.
- Find different ways to say the same thing.
- Be consistent. Oh, and build in communication routines. For example, when you’re talking to them in the kitchen there’s a good chance you’re telling them you’re hungry. Though I have been known to be hungry and say so when I’m in another room of the house. But it is harder for my humans to understand.
- Reward their attempts at understanding you with affection. I always try to purr and cuddle in response to my people’s attempts to get what I’m saying. Even when they aren’t quite on the money.
- Never hold grudges. This is especially true with people you love, but it’s good advice for everyone.
- Always give the benefit of the doubt. They are trying. So if they gave you crunchy food when what you had was a taste for a fish flake, forgive them and ask again. Nicely. They will eventually get it
- Keep at it. This communication business is challenging. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it.
Let me know what you think of my tips. And do you have others to add? We could start a big old list.
Happy Wednesday!
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July 7, 2010 at 8:46 am
Anne
Mija – you communicate loud and clear —–in your own quiet way. When visiting, it is fun and interesting to watch you . The bond between you and Rick is very touching. I am reminded of the days that it was my lap and shoulder he would claim as his spot.
July 7, 2010 at 8:52 am
Jean McBride
You’ve been up close and personal with Mija. You know what a communicator she is. Thanks for your comments.
July 7, 2010 at 9:05 am
Tammy
Really great advice this week, Mija!!
July 7, 2010 at 9:11 am
Jean McBride
Purr…
July 7, 2010 at 10:16 am
Jane Sullivan
Phoebe and Izzy think that touching helps with communication. Actually, they are big on jumping to get attention, and thus getting their point across!
July 7, 2010 at 10:21 am
Jean McBride
Hard to ignore a jumping Yorkie Poo!
July 7, 2010 at 11:10 am
Daisy the Curly Cat
I can learn a lot from you, Mija. I always try to start with verbal communication, then I move on to pawing stuff. If all else fails, I have to use the Bitey.
July 7, 2010 at 11:24 am
Laurel
My cat Jewell adds, “Never use your claws when you’re really trying to just get your message across. People don’t like claws.”
July 7, 2010 at 11:41 am
Jean McBride
You are so right about people not liking claws. I can get booted off the bed for just showing my affection with my claws. Sheesh. Getting used to humans is an ongoing process.
~Mija
July 7, 2010 at 11:39 am
Jean McBride
I try not to do the biting thing because I’ve learned that my people really don’t like it.
I did have one particularly embarrassing time when my people were showing what I thought was entirely too much affection to each other – and NOT ME. I bit the big guy on the toe and learned it wasn’t a good idea. Lesson learned!
~Mija